Campus Confidential
Tessa Bryant
Issue date: 4/17/09 Section: Opinion
Spring is here.
The days are starting to stretch longer, people are spending a little more time outside and temperatures are starting to get warmer. The end of the semester is less than one month away, and it is time to break out the summer clothes, play some bags and enjoy the final few weeks at Western.
And while the season of love is in full bloom, coupling is the last thing on my mind.
For me, the last weeks of April means putting together presentations, polishing papers and studying for the mid-May sweep of final exams. Add that to a work, campus activities and a social life and life gets busy, fast.
That being said, there is always a struggle between the male and female populations on campus to find a main squeeze - everyone wants someone to love, but who has time to settle down?
Relationships are like gardening. They take work, attention and devotion. You get what you give, as my friend Carley would say.
College is the time to experiment, to explore different options, get a little crazy and make a lot of memories. It's four years of your life where you are supposed to make mistakes and find your way in the world.
My friend Cameron prefers friends with benefits, what she calls the "buddy system of the bedroom."
She's got a point. When it comes to getting some sexual satisfaction, sometimes a phone call the next day isn't necessary. Sometimes having a situation where you can enjoy a night of good sex and politely sidestep the cliche "I love yous" the next morning works.
Being friends with benefits receives its fair share of bad PR. I don't think it's all that bad, though, especially for busy individuals who want great sex but don't necessarily have time to build a relationship. "Every friends with benefits situation is destined to end in disaster," said my friend Carley. Most of my girlfriends agreed with her sentiments.
"I don't think they're all destined to end in disaster," I said. "You just have to make sure where you draw the line."
The days are starting to stretch longer, people are spending a little more time outside and temperatures are starting to get warmer. The end of the semester is less than one month away, and it is time to break out the summer clothes, play some bags and enjoy the final few weeks at Western.
And while the season of love is in full bloom, coupling is the last thing on my mind.
For me, the last weeks of April means putting together presentations, polishing papers and studying for the mid-May sweep of final exams. Add that to a work, campus activities and a social life and life gets busy, fast.
That being said, there is always a struggle between the male and female populations on campus to find a main squeeze - everyone wants someone to love, but who has time to settle down?
Relationships are like gardening. They take work, attention and devotion. You get what you give, as my friend Carley would say.
College is the time to experiment, to explore different options, get a little crazy and make a lot of memories. It's four years of your life where you are supposed to make mistakes and find your way in the world.
My friend Cameron prefers friends with benefits, what she calls the "buddy system of the bedroom."
She's got a point. When it comes to getting some sexual satisfaction, sometimes a phone call the next day isn't necessary. Sometimes having a situation where you can enjoy a night of good sex and politely sidestep the cliche "I love yous" the next morning works.
Being friends with benefits receives its fair share of bad PR. I don't think it's all that bad, though, especially for busy individuals who want great sex but don't necessarily have time to build a relationship. "Every friends with benefits situation is destined to end in disaster," said my friend Carley. Most of my girlfriends agreed with her sentiments.
"I don't think they're all destined to end in disaster," I said. "You just have to make sure where you draw the line."
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AJD
posted 4/17/09 @ 12:01 PM CST
I applaud this article. It's much better than the previous ones. It talks about a sexual situation issue that's relevant without having to be raunchy or TMI. (Continued…)
Anonymous
posted 4/17/09 @ 5:25 PM CST
Miss Bryant,
I've been reading your column every week. Sometimes I think you're right on the money, and sometimes I completely disagree with you. This particular article sent me over the edge. (Continued…)
TSP
posted 4/18/09 @ 12:22 AM CST
I think the problem that many are seeing reflected clearly in these columns is how society today has cheapened sex into a mere recreational activity. If you believe that sex is more than that and should be more than that, you get accused of being conservative or a religious zealot or uptight or whatever. (Continued…)
Stanley Crowe
posted 4/23/09 @ 7:20 PM CST
Dear Tessa-
I have been following Campus Confidential for quite some time now, and I must say that I applaud you. I believe that this country has far too long been afraid of the subject of sex. (Continued…)
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